Many women are dating widowers who refuse to see a therapist. Is it a red flag? In this video Relationship Coach provides guidance so widowers can decide if therapy is right them, if they need to see a therapist, and what alternatives are out there if they decide therapy isn't right for them.
Good Intentions, Bad Results: How Reminders of the Past Prevent One from Moving Forward
In this video, I share a story from a recently remarried widower about how reminders of the past temporarily halted his progress toward a new life with his new wife.
Ditch the Dating App and Join a Club
People are ditching dating apps and meeting people at places like running clubs and other organizations that meet on a regular basis. This is a better way to meet people. More details here and at the video below.
You're NOT Being Insecure!
What do you do when you bring up issues or concerns with a widower and he tells you that "you're being insecure?" I have the answer in this video.
Girlfriend or Therapist?
Do you ever feel like you're a therapist instead of a girlfriend? In this video Relationship Coach Abel Keogh gives you 4 ways to know if the widower is in love with you or is using you for free therapy.
Comparison is the Thief of Joy
Comparing current relationships and people to past relationships and people is a quick and easy way to kill a loving relationship. In this video I discuss how to avoid such comparison and what to do if your partner is playing the comparison game.
Stop Litigating the Past!
Constantly bringing up past mistakes is poison for your relationship. In this video, relationship coach Abel Keogh discusses the best path forward when one or both parties in a relationship continue to litigate the past.
The Golden Bachelor Gets Divorced after 3 Months of Marriage. What Can You Learn from It?
In case you haven’t heard, “The Golden Bachelor” is getting a divorce. The couple announced on TV (of course) that they came to the conclusion it was time to “dissolve” their relationship after being married for just 3 months. According to news reports, the decision was linked to the inability of couple to decide how to merge their lives. Apparently, part of it was they could never reach an agreement on where to live. (The wife lives in New Jersey while the GB resides in Indiana.)
While their divorce may come as a sad surprise to many, the truth is if you don’t have big issues resolved—like where to live—before tying the knot your marriage is going to go down in flames. Divorce rates for second marriages but esp. for widows and widowers is extremely high in part because big decisions and dealbreakers aren’t discussed and sorted out before saying “I Do!”. If you’ve ever taken a coaching session from me or read one of my books, you’ll know that I stress knowing your dealbreakers and what you can and can’t live with BEFORE getting serious with someone.
Alas, it’s too late for this couple, but be ye not so stupid. In any case I wish the Golden Bachelor and his soon-to-be ex-wife all the luck and success going forward and may everyone else learn an important lesson as you look for love.
Don’t Get Married If You Can’t Open Your Heart
Too many widows and widowers get married before they can fully open their heart. In this video, relationship coach Abel Keogh reads a post from a man whose wife confessed she will always love her late husband more and what is the best path for the couple going forward.
Where Does Starting a New Life End?
A viewer writes: Abel, I agree relationships need to be reevaluated and you shouldn’t expect a new spouse to just plunge into the deceased position socially or family wise. However, when it comes to hobbies and passions, where does requesting to start a new life end? For example, if they enjoy working out or running and that’s something the they shared with their deceased partner, does that mean I’m not allowed to continue with those activities or share them with my new love? If Julie asked you not ot write a book because your late wife, Krista, enjoyed writing, would you do it? Is that part of the price you have to pay for a new life?